So you’ve peed on a stick, it’s positive…now what? Part 2

Could you be pregnant? Some top symptoms of Pregnancy!

The signs of pregnancy are so closely linked together and sometimes are not so easily separated from PMS symptoms. But here are a few of the “signs” that may be telling you that baby is on the way! So I’ll just put the premise one on here as: you’ve missed period. Now some women still get a “period” but it’s nowhere near as heavy. And for those of you who have irregular periods, that might not be the first sign. So here are a few below that might help you clue in.

1) Your boobs

For many women the early sign of pregnancy is sensitive, sore breasts–and nipples (this is caused by increasing levels of hormones.) Remember what your boobs felt like when you were growing up? Well welcome back to adolescence! I had to wear two bras and limit motion, even laying down hurt. You will also notice that your girls become huge bigger to accompany the soreness. Some sites compare this to an amplified feeling of tenderness (I’m not going to call it tenderness, cause they bloody well hurt) that is similar to when you are about to get your period.

Another side effect of pregnancy is the darkening of the areolas, they also get huge! This is your body’s way to prepare your breasts to make milk. The reason your body does this is so that your little babe can see where to suck after your give birth. It’s almost like a bull’s eye target for them.

Tip: Wear a sports bra or two, and don’t take the stairs quickly.

2) What is that smell?

You’ll turn into a bloodhound. I remember my husband had eaten garlic for lunch one day and when he came to pick me up I had to roll the window down it was so strong. Not just food bugged me, he bought this horrible wonderful cologne that would make me want to vomit every time he put it on. I’d be in the other end of the house and smell the one sprits he sprayed on himself in the morning.

This new found olfactory wonder is not officially linked to increasing hormone (estrogen) levels but it does wonders for controlling your new nonexistent appetite. You may find the smell of something you love turn into something you can’t even have in the house. These feelings are so real they can actually bring you close to or make you vomit. Leading into my next point.

Tip: be aware of where the nearest window and or bathroom are so that you can either breathe fresh air, or puke in private.

3) You’ll notice that your toilet is not as clean as you thought it was…

While it’s called Morning sickness, it should be called all the freaking time sickness. It can happen; morning/noon/night there is no rule when talking about nausea. Now there are a few things to mention. It happens mostly likely in the am because that is when your blood sugar is lowest. For me it happened at night. And ladies, it often happens without warning. One time, I didn’t make it to the bathroom, but found a sink—not my proudest moment.

While some women don’t notice this lovely side effect until after their first month, some women notice it right away and some women never notice it at all–bastards! Now there is no rule that you will actually vomit, you may just be nauseous all day, or you may get bouts of it. It is “supposed” to subside once the placenta takes over for hormone production (around 12 weeks), but some unlucky women have it throughout their whole pregnancy. If it does happen to disappear after your first trimester, it may return in your third.

Tip: Carry some crackers in your purse, or by the nightstand and eat before you get up. Often eating something will help you not want to vomit. If it is really bad ask your doctor. They have a drug called Dilectin (prescription) that helps with morning sickness–it may be the only way you can function.

4) What could be mistaken for your period…? Cramps.

Ok the funniest book I read during pregnancy was Jenny McCarthy’s “Belly laughs.” I never suspected pregnancy because I had period cramps from hell. I had no spotting but cramps must surely be a sign my period was on its way. Well, little did I know that an expanding uterus hurts! Jenny described it like this, “I went to the bathroom expecting to find the remnants of the Texas Chainsaw Massacre in my underwear” only to find none. I couldn’t have agreed more! Not only that, but your vaginal discharge also increases, which she dubs the “snail trail.”

While cramping is normal, it can be stressing once you find out you are pregnant. I still experienced cramping from time to time during those first 12 weeks, but never any blood. There was a bit of pinkish discharge but nothing too noticeable. But Implantation bleeding is very common as the egg attaches itself to its uterine wall. The bleeding is very light (appearing as red spotting or pink or reddish-brown staining) and lasts only a day or two. (Let your doctor know if you notice any bleeding or spotting, particularly if it’s accompanied by pain, since this can be a sign of an ectopic pregnancy.)

If a fertilized egg implants outside the uterus, it’s called an ectopic pregnancy. One in 50 pregnancies ends this way.
Here’s how it happens: After conception, the fertilized egg travels down your fallopian tube on its way to your uterus. If the tube is damaged or blocked and fails to propel the egg toward your womb, the egg may become implanted in the tube and continue to develop there. Because almost all ectopic pregnancies occur in one of the fallopian tubes, they’re often called “tubal” pregnancies.

Much less often, an egg implants in an ovary, in the cervix, directly in the abdomen, or even in a c-section scar. In rare cases, a woman has a normal pregnancy in her uterus and an ectopic pregnancy at the same time. This is called a heterotopic pregnancy and it’s more likely to happen if you’ve had fertility treatments, such as in-vitro fertilization.
There’s no way to transplant an ectopic (literally, “out of place”) pregnancy into your uterus, sadly ending the pregnancy is the only option.

Tip: But if you are ever unsure head to the hospital, it’s better to be safe. I would be cautious of using anything really hot on your stomach but as long as you don’t use it for lengthy amounts of time, a hot water bottle can help some of the soreness.

5) I have to go Peeeeeeeeee (no not the Robert Munsch book)

Frequent urination is a huge “side effect” of pregnancy. Mostly because during pregnancy the amount of blood and other fluids in your body increases, which leads to extra fluid being processed by your kidneys and ending up in your bladder.
This symptom may start as early as six weeks into your first trimester and continue or worsen as your pregnancy progresses and your growing baby exerts more pressure on your bladder. Ain’t life grand!

Tip: find a close path to the bathroom!Oh and if you don’t know who Robert Munsch is, go look him up, I guarantee you’ll be reading him later to your child to be!

6) So now I’m fat!

Well not really fat, I mean I lost 10 lbs and gained 2 inches on my waist. This is because hormonal changes in early pregnancy may leave you feeling bloated, similar to the feeling some women have just before their period arrives. That’s why your clothes may feel snugger than usual at the waistline, even early on when your uterus is still quite small. Still made me feel fat! I think I was in maternity clothes at 9 weeks!

Tip: most clothes these days do not look like maternity clothes, but if you are forced to buy some buy it bigger, knowing that medium fits great now, it won’t in 4 months!

7) Huh what’d you say? Sorry I was just resting my eyes… fatigue set’s in.

Often the first sign of pregnancy, it’s not always the most obvious. Working women or women with other children may not notice being extra tired. No one knows for sure what causes early pregnancy fatigue, but it’s possible that rapidly increasing levels of the hormone progesterone are contributing to your sleepiness.

Tip: Sleep when you can, it won’t always be this easy to take a nap

8) Heartburn… yes I sound like a man with my belches!

What can I say about this…? I had so much heartburn it was horrible. I had to pretty much sleep sitting up as well as have my own designated bottle of gaviscon. Hormones created during pregnancy may relax the lower esophageal sphincter (LES), which opens the valve to allow stomach acids to flow up into the esophagus causing a burning sensation. Though this symptom got worse in my third trimester. I mean even Iced Tea gave me heartburn.

Tip: take Tums or another form of antacid recommended by doctors, but read the recommended dosage, certain ones are not pregnancy friendly. Herbal teas are also “cautioned” against but for me I drank in moderation peppermint tea and chamomile.

9) OH my head is pounding (headaches)

If you have never experienced regular headaches before pregnancy, be prepared for some throbbing pain in your head and neck during pregnancy. Not only the pain, but you’re not supposed to take anything for them. Changes in your body’s hormonal patterns is the primary cause of headaches during pregnancy. Other conditions like lack of sleep, poor posture, stress, dehydration and low blood sugar levels may also worsen of cause headaches.

Tip: drink lots of water, if it’s really bad take acetaminophen.

10)Constipation: I never thought it could be so hard.

Hormonal changes during pregnancy slows down the movement of food through your digestive system which results in constipation. This could be a sign of pregnancy if you do not experience constipation frequently–and trust me, it’s not fun!

Tip: Eat lots of fruits and drink lots of water!

11) Who’s that crazy woman who used to be my: Wife, girlfriend, companion?…Mood swings

Yes, that rational woman you once were, goes out the window with her thong. With your hormones raging, it is common for women to feel moody during their pregnancy. All women have to go through a period of adjustment to settle into their new roles as a pregnant women and that takes time. But it’s a roller coaster that is unpredictable! Even the slightest thing can make this woman burst into tears or tear your head off

Tip: tread lightly

12) Whoa, I don’t feel so great: fainting spells

Dizziness and fainting spells: Due to the lowered blood pressure in your body during pregnancy, blood flow to the brain may cause dizziness and fainting spells in serious cases.–Some women actually find out they’re pregnant this way.

Tip: try to recognize a warning sign and don’t push yourself, sit and stand slowly.

13)Ummm what’s that? I want some of it–and I WANT it now! Food cravings.

Cravings for food that you normally would not eat could be a sign that you are pregnant. Normally, women report cravings for salty and sweet food during pregnancy while others report an uncommon desire for spicy or starchy food. All I can say is that I wanted potatoes. I wanted potato everything and gravy. I was one of those women who never liked sweets before pregnancy and all of a sudden I loved cake!  You also can have food aversion, so that if you loved cake, you may hate it during pregnancy. The cravings may stay with you after the baby comes or it may disappear with the fierceness it came.

Tip: Try to balance your cravings as much as possible; while it’s good to give into your cravings, it’s not great to get off the extra weight.

14) Is it hot in here or is it just me?

High Basal Body Temperature (BBT): If you’ve been charting your basal body temperature and you see that your temperature has stayed elevated for 18 days in a row, you’re probably pregnant. If your BTT stays in the high temperature range for 18 days or more, you have a good chance of being pregnant.

Tip: Wear layers just in case you need to feel cooler quickly, know where your closest exits are.

15) Positive home pregnancy tests

Well folks this pretty much means it’s a baby that’s making you sick and tired.

Pregnancy tests measure a hormone called human chorionic gonadotropin (HCG). The placenta produces this hormone during pregnancy. The embryo begins to produce this hormone as soon as it attaches to the wall of the uterus – often as soon as eight to 10 days after conception. Although each woman is different, the HCG level usually doubles every 48 to 72 hours. How soon a pregnancy can be detected depends on:

  • how much HCG is being produced
  • the type of pregnancy test used (blood or urine)
  • the amount of HCG the test measures (each test is more or less sensitive)

Tip: It’s very rare for you to get a positive test and not be pregnant. It is however very common to get a negative test and still be pregnant, if you are past due for your period and still get a negative result go see your doctor or a clinic.

The Bottom Line:

SO if you’ve taken a home pregnancy test (there are some at Dollarama–if you don’t want to shell out the 15-20$ that people have tested with) and has come back positive, then you most likely are. Remember that even if you get a negative result on a test before or even around when your period is due, you could still be pregnant. The advice given on those boxes is to wait a week and try again. If you can stand waiting a week, then you’re amazing. I would just go out and get 7 pregnancy tests from Dollarama and test every day to make sure, oh and I’d probably make an appointment to see my doctor! But knowing me I would probably spend the moola on a pricey test just to be sure. They all measure the same HCG some are mor sensitive then others.

Most of the symptoms masquerade like pre-menstrual syndromes so you may have no clue at all. If you are taking birth control, stop using it if you suspect you are pregnant. I would also stop drinking, smoking or using any other type of recreational drug. Which leads me to my next post…

So I’m officially pregnant, what can I eat? Is it still safe to have sex? How do I tell my loved ones, should I wait until the magic 12 mark? Until next time! Happy testing!

So you’ve peed on a stick, it’s positive…now what? Part 1

Pregnancy is an amazing time in your life. How many times did I hear that and think to myself, whoever believes that is crazy.  I’m sorry, I was not a big fan of being pregnant. Don’t get me wrong, I was happy that my husband and I were expecting, but I just did not enjoy being pregnant. I think a friend of mine described it very well, “it’s like becoming a teenager all over again.”  Your body is changing, there’s more fur where there was none before LOL —sorry had to add that one in from The Simpsons, and every morning, you look at your changing body and feel out of control of it all. Not to mention the crazy hormones that go along with the changing body, one minute you’re happy, the next minute you’re the crazy pregnant woman. I remember one time I had a huge melt down because I had forgotten my pants at the tailor’s over the weekend and had a Christmas party to go to, I even cried LOL But I digress.

First Things First… Congratulations!

Bringing a life into this world is scary and exciting at the same time. It’s almost impossible to describe the feeling. I was terrified. While our son is an amazing miracle, we had not actively been trying. Sure we charted ovulation and knew it was “possible”, but was it? Short answer yes.  And it only took once! What’s amazing is that once you pee on that stick and it turns—a variety of things meaning positive, there is no going back folks. Whether you thought you were ready and now are not so sure, it really doesn’t matter anymore.  It ceases to be about you, and starts to be all about your baby. Questions like: Am I really ready? Will I be a good mother? What will my partner think? What will my family think? What about my career? What can I eat? Also there are these questions: Oh no, I just found out, and now i’m worried about all those drinks I had, is the baby ok? I just read that i’m not supposed to take hot baths, and here I am sitting in one, Oops, we’re not supposed to eat sushi, but that’s what I had for supper, how’s my baby now?

If you were not expecting this pregnancy, this life is your choice but I urge you to look at this video before you make any decisions, please take a minute to watch this video:

I am all for a woman’s control over her body and before I had a child, I always thought that I was “ok” with abortion. I mean there are always extenuating circumstances but for me I never thought I could do it. There are so many people who can’t have children who would make wonderful parents. If you are newly pregnant and wondering if you could keep it please visit this link:

http://www.cfsh.ca/

So ummm when am I due? How far along am I?

These are some pretty standard questions. First things first… you need to figure out the first day of your last period. Here is a standard Due Date Calculator. I think it always helps to look at your ovulation cycle as well, because some women do not have a standard 28 day cycle, take a peak at when you may have conceived your bundle of joy! So depending on how you count it, three months does not happen until 12/13 weeks of pregnancy. Some women will count that she is 12 weeks but in her 13th week of being pregnant. I know it took me a while to get that too.

For example:

My LMP (Last Missed Period) was June 21st, 2007 so based on this date, my fertile times were between July 2nd and July 7th. My resulting due date was approximately March 27th. Before you even “know”  you are pregnant, your little bean is growing extraordinarily fast! When you find out you are pregnant (if you find out around the time your period is supposed to come) you are already 4 weeks along, so at that point there is only 9 months to go (yes pregnancy is 10 months long!)

Around the two week mark from your first day of your last period, your ovaries release an egg (often just one egg–they can release more then one.) When the egg is released, and travels down from your ovaries through the fallopian tube where fertilization most likely occurs. Once the egg is fertilized, it travels to your uterus and embed’s itself into the lining–this can actually cause cramping, as well as some spotting.

Will I miscarry?

A newly pregnant woman always has the same fears about miscarriage. While something’s are not recommended for newly pregnant women, most often miscarriages cannot be prevented.  There are a few things you can do to lower your chances of miscarriage but sadly, there is not always an explanation for a pregnancy loss.

Some suggestions to lower your risk: cut out the caffeine, studies show that excess amounts of caffeine increase your chances of miscarriage. This includes pop ladies!  Please remember that correlation does not equal causation and that it’s impossible to isolate one cause because of other lifestyle factors.

Sadly, the statistic’s on miscarriages are not always accurate because of the ones that do not get reported. But generally for women in childbearing years, the chances of having a miscarriage can range from 10-25% ( 1 in 4), and in most healthy women the average is about a 15-20% chance. It is also widely believed that if you reach your second trimester, the rate for miscarriages drop dramatically, and while they do lower you may still lose a baby at any stage in your pregnancy. Any loss of pregnancy before 20 weeks gestation, is a miscarriage, over 20 weeks 6 days it is called a still birth.

During the first trimester, the most common cause of miscarriage is chromosomal abnormality – meaning that something is not correct with the baby’s chromosomes. Most chromosomal abnormalities are the cause of a faulty egg or sperm cell, or are due to a problem at the time that the zygote went through the division process. Other causes for miscarriage include (but are not limited to):

  • Hormonal problems, infections or maternal health problems
  • Lifestyle (I.e. smoking, drug use, malnutrition, excessive caffeine and exposure to radiation or toxic substances
  • Implantation of the egg into the uterine lining does not occur properly
  • Maternal age (this can be either younger then 18 or older then 35)
  • Maternal trauma

Interesting side note: some factors that are not proven to cause miscarriage are sex, working outside the home (unless in a harmful environment) or moderate exercise

An increase in maternal age affects the chances of miscarriage:

Women under the age of 35 yrs old have about a 15% chance of miscarriage

Women who are 35-45 yrs old have a 20-35% chance of miscarriage

Women over the age of 45 can have up to a 50% chance of miscarriage

A woman who has had a previous miscarriage has a 25% chance of having another (only a slightly elevated risk than for someone who has not had a previous miscarriage)

What are the warning signs of a miscarriage?

If you experience any or all of these symptoms, it is important to contact your doctor or a medical facility to evaluate if you could be having a miscarriage:

  • Mild to severe back pain (often worse than normal menstrual cramps)
  • Weight loss
  • White-pink mucus
  • True contractions (very painful happening every 5-20 minutes)
  • Brown or bright red bleeding with or without cramps (20-30% of all pregnancies can experience some bleeding in early pregnancy, with about 50% of those resulting in normal pregnancies)
  • Tissue with clot like material passing from the vagina
  • Sudden decrease in signs of pregnancy

Keep in mind that you may have implantation bleeding during the first few weeks as well as cramping.  As for weight loss, I actually lost 10 lbs when I found out I was pregnant and not because I had morning sickness badly, your eating habits just change. Don’t freak out if you see white/pink mucus again could be a sign of implantation, but it turns bright red I’d go to the doctor or emergency. Often at the beginning of the pregnancy, there isn’t much they can do to prevent a miscarriage. From all of the people in my life that have experienced a miscarriage, have told me the same thing. The doctor’s treat it like a process (I have a check list here, and i have to go through it systematically), leaving you like a science experiment gone wrong. It’s almost like their ability to empathize that you are LOSING your baby goes out the window. Not only that but you are bombarded by (in Winnipeg anyway’s) student’s (at teaching hospitals) who have little to no experience with miscarriage. They often ask you the same questions over and over again, and then if there is someone new that comes on, be prepared to go through it again. I’m sure there are some very nice doctors and nurses out there but you are a needle in a haystack when it comes to emergency room care.

If miscarriage is suspected you may be asked to take a pregnancy blood test. This test will look for levels of pregnancy hormone beta HCG. 48 hours later you will be required to repeat this test. If the levels of the pregnancy hormone have dropped, then it means that you have lost the baby. If levels are continuing to rise, you are still pregnant.

If the pregnancy is lost, they may perform a D&C (Dilation and Curettage–small spoon shaped instrument) where your womb is scraped to make sure it is clear–often performed under light anesthetic. At hospital they may give you a vaginal scan to check that your womb is clear. If something does not feel right and they send you home go see your doctor or go back to the emergency room.

What happens after the curette?


Most women bleed for five to 10 days following a curette. Contact your doctor if you experience:

  • Prolonged or heavy bleeding
  • Blood clots or strong abdominal pain
  • Changes in your vaginal discharge
  • Fever or flu-like symptoms.

Your next period

Your ovaries will usually produce an egg about two weeks after your miscarriage. Your first period should occur within four to six weeks. You should have a check-up with your doctor six weeks after your miscarriage to make sure there are no problems and ensure your uterus has returned to normal size. You can also ask any questions about your miscarriage at this time, including the results of any pathology tests.

The most important thing if you’ve suffered a miscarriage is to find a support system that works for you. This can be family, friends or medical professionals. Often clinic’s or hospitals offer wonderful support groups and I encourage any women who have had the experience of a miscarriage to seek some type of counseling. Additionally there are fantastic resources online for women who have experienced a loss. There are also many message boards that you can join, to talk to other women who have or are going through exactly what you are feeling.

The Bottom Line

Ok so now that I’ve scared all the newly pregnant women out there, keep in mind while approximately 1 in 4 pregnancies end in miscarriage, 3 out of 4 pregnancies do successfully come full term. There is hope out there ladies. Even if you have suffered a loss you can successfully bring a life into this world. We may not know why we lose our little babies, but these little angles do not go on unloved or forgotten.

Stay tuned to find out symptoms of pregnancy…

Stars and Strollers: The best way to catch up on new movies with your baby!

image Have you wanted to go and see a new movie without feeling badly about if your baby or child makes a scene or has a melt down? Now you can with Cineplex Odeon’s Stars and Strollers!  Most of their theater’s offer this service to moms, and dads alike, not to mention grandparents and family members who want to get out and enjoy a movie with the special “little” people in their lives.

Children under 3 are free, so all you have to worry about is a ticket for the adults or children that accompany you.  They offer complementary Diapers and wipes (at least the location we went to today did). The only draw back is that there was only one changing station in the woman’s bathroom.  They had one set up next to the complementary diaper’s but it is a little awkward changing  your baby in front of 30 other strangers. But as an option (while the movie is playing) it is dark in the theater so provided that you need to change your little one during a show, it is dark enough to do so privately as long as you bring a change pad.

Stars and Strollers allows you to:

  • Enjoy the latest movies in a Baby-Friendly environment at Cineplex Entertainment theatres
  • Generally featuring a choice of two movies at every screening!**
    • **Film options may be reduced to one per week during summer months and holidays
    • Find out if your Cineplex theater offer’s this service in your area by visiting this site:
    • This site will also allow you to see which movies are playing in your area this week!
  • Screenings of the latest releases every week at your participating theatre
  • Lowered volume levels
  • Dimmed lighting
  • Stroller Parking Available

For us we are given a choice of one movie per theater (i’m sure because it’s summer) and we chose to see Wall-E . The movie itself was not too bad, it started out pretty iffy as there was no talking for a good 30 minutes of the film, and only robot sounds, which get’s old to adults quickly. But the movie picked up and introduced the humans so if you do decide to go see it, it won’t totally bore you.

Pixar PrestoimageThere was however the funniest short film i’ve seen in a long time. It’s by Pixar, and it’s called Presto. A tale of a rabbit and his magician. I laughed so hard for the whole time it was playing and my son was amazed at the huge animations on the screen.

The Bottom Line

If you are going to take your young baby, make sure you take a blanket as watching a movie, that size for a lengthy amount of time is quite stimulating. I was able to put up a “wall” in the line of vision so that  he could try to nap. Amazingly he did well, he watched for 20 minutes, got fussy, I wrapped him up he slept for a good 40 minutes and then I was able to feed him in the darkness before the end of the movie. All in all successful trip!The movie is still loud, and may startle those babies who need absolute silence to sleep! For what it’s worth, I would not plan to stay for any length of time, you never know how they’ll react to the big lights and sounds.

Oh and as a side note, there was a shady character that came up to me after the movie, and while as a parent you carry a lot of things with you when you travel, my hands were full. So I opted to sit down and wait for my mommy friend to return (she went in search of a change table at the mall). Well I had the diaper bag around me and had placed my son on the floor (in his car seat with my purse between my feet). He came up to me and said cute baby, so being the nice person I am (LOL) I said thank you but decided not to continue the conversation. He proceeded to sit down, which made me uncomfortable (he sat at the table next to me) and I decided to nonchalantly pick up my purse and pretend to look for a baby wipe. He then asked me for spare change, to which I replied I had none, and then he said, i’m just looking for coffee, to which I still replied I had none. He sat there for another 5 minutes before getting up and walking away. Just as a warning ladies, with as much as you carry around with you are are a perfect target for criminals. I wouldn’t run after this creep if he had swiped my purse and leave my son unattended. So either don’t take your purse or strap it to yourself!

Happy viewing everyone!

How my baby became the happiest baby on the block!

Let me preface this post with saying, I don’t think I could have survived the first three months of my crazy adorable son’s life without this DVD. Dr. Harvey Karp is a nationally renowned pediatrician and child development specialist. He is an Assistant Professor of Pediatrics at the UCLA School of Medicine. Now that I’ve gotten the technical stuff out of the way, I’m going to tell you how he saved my husbands and my sanity. I swear I would have thought my son was “colicky” if it were not for this DVD.

The Beginning

Babies are wonderful miracles, and it still amazes me today that I have the privilege of being a mother. It is the hardest job I’ve ever done in my entire life. We’re talking about 24/7— 365 days a year, and no your work doesn’t stay at the office when you go home! But, the first three months are the hardest time in a parent’s life. Why? Let’s see, after a crazy experience called “birth” you are thrust into “motherhood” with little to no training. No matter how many books you read, how many shows you watch, and how many friends tell you their version of motherhood, NOTHING can prepare you for your journey.

So what happens after you give birth?

Well, for me I was thrust into a semi private room (after 22.5–and yes I will add the .5 in there–hours of labour) and not having slept in two nights, was given my baby.  Not that I’m advocating leaving your child with someone else, but birth is such an emotional rollercoaster, and even with it taking almost 24 hours for it to be completed, you’re so tired, and almost shell shocked and thrust forward into reality. So for the past 10 months (that’s right for all of you who think pregnancy is 9 months, it’s 40 weeks long) you’ve been incubating this little baby, while you go through the rough part of morning/noon/night sickness in the beginning, gaining lots of extra padding, and then feeling like you’re a beached whale, trust me pregnancy is the “easy” part. You only really have to worry about you for those months, you get to eat when you want, sleep when you want and run to the store when you want. Well after your little one comes out, it ceases to be about you.

No matter how tired you are, your baby comes first. You need to feed, change and love this little bundle of joy. Sounds easy doesn’t it? Well the premise is good, but what happens when your baby is crying. Generally you ask yourself these questions:

  1. Is (s)he hungry? Feed baby.
  2. Is (s)he wet? Change baby.
  3. Is (s)he lonely? Pick baby up.
  4. Is (s)he gassy? Burp baby.
  5. is (s)he cold/hot? Bundle baby or remove some layers from baby.

Uh oh… baby is still crying. What now?

Welcome to parenthood. It seems like people are forever giving advice, that’s all well and good, but the problem is that half the time, its conflicting advice. More often then not when a baby is crying, people assume it’s Colic. So… What is Colic? Most websites describe Colic as this:

When a baby’s crying lasts longer than three hours a day, it is called colic. Almost all babies develop a fussy period. The timing varies, but it usually begins at about three weeks of age and peaks somewhere between four and six weeks of age. For most infants the most intense fussiness is in the evening”

Alright ladies and Gentlemen, have you ever had to endure a baby crying for any length of time? Let alone for 3 hours? Now as a new parent you’re seriously supposed to wait until 6 weeks before things get better? NO!!!!  A lot of people believe that colic is gas, well hate to tell you this, if when you try Dr. Karp’s method’s and baby stops crying instantly, it’s not gas. Newborns have this shrill cry, about everything when they get worked up. It sounds like they are in constant pain, in reality they’re just trying to get used to their surroundings to our world. Imagine, you’re in this temperature controlled environment, with constant rocking, hugging, sound (it’s louder than a vacuum inside the womb), and food. And then you’re born– all of a sudden, there is no constant in your life.  It’s quiet, you feel hunger for the first time, you bum gets dirty and then someone places you in a big open space and expects you to sleep!

So what can I do?

You’ve checked baby’s bum, fed baby, comforted baby (baby probably won’t let you put him/her down), burped baby, and made sure (s)he is not too hot or cold. Now it’s time to help your baby with their “calming reflex”  Dr. Karp insists that babies are born with a calming reflex (much like the sucking, or rooting reflex) and it’s our job as parents to turn it on!

The 5 S’s

DUDU swaddle Swaddling - Tight swaddling provides the continuous touching and support the fetus experienced while still in Mom’s womb. He Swaddles using the Down Up Down Up (DUDU for short–no I’m not kidding) The best way to explain this–And this is seriously the most important of all 5 S’s, is get a large square blanket. Make it yourself tip: Get enough stretchy cotton from the fabric store, to make three or four 42 Square Inch blankets–have someone or do it yourself, serge the edge of the material or place ribbing around the end and sew it on. Or you can buy them off the site.  Now lay the blanket flat on the ground in a diamond shape. With the top edge of the diamond, fold it down just a tad, that is where baby’s head will rest. Take the left side of the swaddle (note: babies will try to fight you but sleep much better wrapped up, because they don’t have control over their arms yet) and fold it over baby, tuck tightly under baby leaving right arm free. Bring bottom part of diamond blanket up and tuck around right shoulder, encompassing the right arm. Now this is the tricky part. Take the right side of blanket (often holding arms so they don’t wiggle out)and bring it down towards the chest–stop half way down. Notice you still have material left over? That’s what you wrap your baby with all the way around and tuck into the fold. To buy the video go to their site or rent it from your local library for free–note, there is usually a waiting period so if you are expecting, I’d get on a wait list near the end of your pregnancy. Here is my take on how to wrap the DUDU way!

Sidebar: Here is the RealTechMom’s swaddling technique. I’ve combined the Happiest Baby’s technique with a little twist. My son has very strong arms, and while the DUDU way works very very well, my son would always manage to get out of it after 3 or 4 hours thus waking up.  There are a number of different swaddle makers out there, but honestly for me to spend the kind of cash they want to ship to Canada is ridiculous. My solution? Make one myself (well actually my MIL made it), you take your 42 square inch blanket and lay it down the same way, here’s the difference, there is bound to be some left over material when you’ve made your swaddle blanket or (you can purchase some from the store), lay that down across the blanket so that it’s near the top where the head would go (see video for instruction), then you are going to take the sides of each blanket and individually wrap the side of each arm so the material goes under baby’s bum/back. Then proceed to wrap baby like the happiest baby does (the DUDU method). When I started to use this method my son started to sleep longer and longer and is now (I am proud to say: sleeping through the night!) I went from getting 2 or 3 hours of sleep, and around three months, he started giving me a 4 hour stretch. When I implemented the new swaddling technique, he gave me 5 hour stretches waking around 2 am, for a feed for about a week and now, does not wake at all for a feed between 8 and 4/5 am! Here is my take on the swaddle, but either way, the key is to make the swaddle out of stretchy cotton material, and when you are pulling tight at the end, make sure it’s snug. I guarantee that baby will sleep longer if baby is swaddled.

Babies will fight you, and you have to be strong (you and your partner/support person(s)) and commit to swaddling. It looks like they don’t like it, but you are the parent and you know what’s best. This will definitely help you get more sleep. Babies’ arms wake them because they lack the ability to control them themselves. If/when they hit themselves, they really have no clue that those thing flying around are their arms, hence the startle and the waking. Now the important part to remember is that swaddling often by itself will NOT calm baby down. Once you’ve swaddled, it allows them to focus on the next S’s so that you can get them to the best “s” Sleep!!!!

Side/stomach position - You place your baby, while holding him/her, either on her left side to assist in digestion, or on her stomach to provide reassuring support. This is often called the “football hold” or reverse breastfeeding hold. You want to make sure that baby is placed with their stomach to the side, if baby is laying flat on your arm it will help but if you tilt baby to the side a bit, you’ll notice your baby has a “sweet spot.” This can often (in combination with the swaddling) can calm your crying baby. Once your baby is happily asleep, you can safely put her in her crib, on her back. Dad’s some of you may excel particularly well at this hold because your arms are bigger, and you feel comfortable holding football’s. For me, I could never quite hold my son in this style. But sometimes baby needs a little more help.

Shushing Sounds – This is the most amazing to see on the Video (that is why I seriously recommend renting or buying it, I liked having a copy that was purchased for me because I could re-watch it over and over to get some of these techniques right. Dr. Karp goes right up to the baby’s ear and goes (shushhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh— loud enough to match baby’s cry) At first, mom’s, grandmom’s, sister’s and anyone else watching may freak out. It appears that you are making baby deaf.  But in the video, you watch Dr. Karp do this to numerous babies and it’s like and automatic switch that turns on their calming reflex. Dr. Karp advocates that it is louder then a vacuum in the womb and that baby’s are “thrust” into silence, the “white” noise comforts them. Have you ever turned on the vacuum to calm a baby down? Try it, unless they are hungry, uncomfortable, or in pain, crying will subside. These sounds imitate the continual whooshing sound made by the blood flowing through arteries near the womb.  The good news is that you can easily save the motors on your household appliances and get a white noise CD which can be played over and over again with no worries. *Note: if using a hair dryer to make white noise for longer then 1 minute, move the hair dryer at least 6 feet away.*

Swinging - Ahh the Swing, where would I have been without my swing. I think I would have been thrown in the loonie bin. Dr. Karp advocates that newborns are used to the swinging motions that were present when they were still in Mom’s womb. *Note: the swing will not calm your baby, baby must be calmed before placed in swing, if baby starts to fuss, give the bucket a little jiggle to re-calm baby* Every step mom took, every movement caused a swinging or jiggling motion for your baby. After your baby is born, this calming motion, which was so comforting and familiar, was abruptly taken away. Your baby misses the motion and has a difficult time getting used to it not being there. “It’s disorienting and unnatural,” says Karp. Rocking, car rides, and other swinging movements all can help. This jiggling that he demonstrates in his video is amazing and is what saved my husband and me. Also dad’s this is where you can swoop in and save the day, men often feel more comfortable using this jiggling then the mom’s. *Note: this is not shaking your baby, you should never EVER shake your baby, if you ever need a break, place baby in a safe spot (crib, play yard) and walk a way for a few minutes or call someone to help.

Sucking – The last but certainly not the least S “Sucking has its effects deep within the nervous system,” notes Karp, “and triggers the calming reflex and releases natural chemicals within the brain.” This “S” can be accomplished with breast, bottle, pacifier or even a finger. He advocates that pacifiers are very useful for the first 3 to 4 months of age to help baby to self soothe, and I 100% agree (we’re not talking about a 3 year old having a sucky here, these are newborn’s.)

Now some babies just need a little bit more help then others and what one of his parents described as the “cuddle cure” (using all 5 at once) takes some practice to find out what works for your baby. Don’t get frustrated, you may not get how to do these right away, but I promise if you give it time to work, it will! You will also get better at each of these things and will learn what works for your baby. Here is Dr. Harvey Karp talking about the 5 S’s.

Back to Sleep

What is SIDS?

SIDS stands for Sudden Infant Death Syndrome. SIDS rarely occurs before 2 weeks or after 6 months of age, while still possible most deaths occur in children who are between 2 months and 4 months of age.

The number of SIDS deaths has declined significantly in recent years, thanks to research that has identified simple measures parents can take to greatly reduce their child’s risk. The most important of these measures involves placing infants to sleep on their backs instead of their stomachs.

The Moro Reflex

Many parents find it very difficult to get their baby to sleep on the back. Most of the time, this difficulty is due to a startle reflex infants have called the Moro reflex. The Moro reflex is a normal reflex for an infant when he or she is startled or feels like they are falling. The infant will fling out his or her arms sideways with the palms up and the thumbs flexed. This reflex can be activate while sleeping if your child is dreaming. This “jerking awake” motion can startle your child awake, upsetting him or her in the process.

Swaddling, arguably the most important component of Dr. Karp’s method, helps your baby feel more secure and allows you to place, an otherwise unwilling baby, on his or her back, instead of the stomach. The swaddling gives your baby a safe secure feeling, as if you are holding them, and will limit any of the sudden movements which can cause your baby to startle awake.

Swaddling makes is easier to place your baby in a safer, recommended, sleep position which reduces the risk of SIDS (Sudden Infant Death Syndrome).

For more information on the “Back to Sleep” campaign call Toll free at 1-800-505-CRIB (2742)

The Bottom Line

Happiest Baby on the Block Buy or Rent the DVD, it’s only about 20-30 minutes that will save yourselves from hours of crying. It is worth the money as a purchase in my books. There is also the book that goes into much more depth about the missing 4th trimester (basically our babies are born 3/4 months too early and need to adjust to the outside world). He also advocates that what you are doing is not spoiling your baby. He says you have to look at it from this perspective, in the womb, baby had all of these things 24 hours a day, so holding them, shushing them and rocking them is not spoiling them even if you’re doing it half the amount of time. So let’s say they go from getting these things for 24 hours a day to 12 hours a day, that hardly sounds like spoiling to me. Remember, your job is to love your baby the best way you know how, these are just some tools that helped me. My son has slept in his crib from day 7 (that’s another story, I did not have my crib mattress yet as he was 3 weeks early) and I’ve never looked back. I’m not knocking co-sleeping because for many people it works, but for us this works better. You can also implement these techniques if you are co-sleeping too.

If you can’t calm your baby, and you are feeling closer and closer to losing control:

  • STOP WHAT YOU ARE DOING!
  • Put your screaming baby down in a crib, swing, or other safe secure spot.
  • Walk a way. Go stand on the porch. Go take a shower. Go do something that will get you away from the situation until you have regained your composure and are able to deal with your baby.
  • REMEMBER—It’s normal to feel upset and angry. Women have a natural instinctual reaction in us to feel (hormonally) upset/frustrated when babies cry, not that men don’t get frustrated but for women it’s chemical.

Taking care of a baby can be tiring and sometimes extremely frustrating, I can’t tell you how many times at the beginning I would sit and cry with my son when he cried because I was so frustrated, so tired, and felt like I was doing a bad job as a mom–It does get better (I know, I hated that saying too but it’s true) . But there are ways to comfort him and yourself, and people nearby to help. Never yell at, hit, or shake a baby!!

 

If you are having a difficult time dealing with your birth experience, and the emotions that come with having a baby, you are not alone. Do not ignore these feelings. Postpartum Depression is normal and should not be ignored. Feel free to look at this site(http://www.postpartum.org/supportgroups.html) and contact the closest location to you, or talk to your public health nurse–they are wonderful resources! Remember being a parent is not easy, especially when you come home from the hospital your hormones are all wacky, but never let that be an excuse. Talk to your doctor if you are even slightly concerned, and if your doctor dismisses your feelings, GET ANOTHER DOCTOR.

Social Networking for your baby?

Totspot-homepage

With social networks dominating our lives (especially in the last few years) it’s no wonder that there has now become a place for babies to be friends with other babies! Check out the latest craze called TotSpot!

 

What is TotSpot?

According to their website, Totspot is:

“…a place for parents to publish a page about their kids and share with family and friends. It’s part online babybook, parent journal, and social network. Childhood is an ongoing story and TotSpot is the first site that makes it super easy for parents to securely share their kid’s story with friends and family.”

What better place to boast about your favourite things in life: your children! The best part about this website is its commitment to privacy. Let’s get a few things straight. You can only search for babies by knowing their username, first of last name, or email. It’s not to be confused with facebook, where you can search for people you know and add them as friends. This site is designed specifically for Kids and their friends and families. So making a profile for your child, the child can add his “baby friends”, and his “big people” friends, but “big people” cannot search each other, after all that’s what facebook is for.

TotSpot is also designed specifically for kids! It allows you to add the following to your child’s webpage! This allows you to invite aunt Salley or uncle Bob to view what’s new and exciting in your child’s life, no matter where they are in the world!

Growth charts Firsts Beautiful themes Hi-Res photos Favorites Videos

One other thing that I think is neat and “facebook-like” is the fact that they have “status” updates (i.e. Little Suzie is taking a nap with mom!) and instead of “poking” someone you can “tickle” someone.

Let’s get Started!

TotSpot-Welcome

To get things started you need to create an account:

There are two types of accounts you can sign up for, the child’s account (the parent or guardian would create your child’s account) or the Grownup account (this is where grandma/grandpa or aunts/uncles create accounts so they can tickle them and look at their profile!)

Child Account

Depending on how many children you have (let’s start with one) you would select the number on the left and hit next. Once you are past that stage, and fill in mandatory information (such as username, first/last name, and an email address that you’ll need to verify the accounts authenticity).

The next step will be to create the first child’s page. It asks things such as username, (this will identify your child, not you) first name, last name birth date and gender. For expectant moms, you can still register your babe, without a name, because you can use the username to hold your child’s place on the site- also if you need to change the date of birth it allows you to do that on their profile as well as the gender. Hit create and you’re well on your way to showing that cute little baby off to your friends and family!

Grownup Account

The Grown up account is similar; you need a username, name, birth date and email address (used for verification). You’re well on your way to showing up as a grownup on your favourite baby’s page!

image

Searching for the babies you know (if you didn’t receive and invitation) requires you to know, their username, first and last name or email address, and even then, you need to be accepted by the “guardian” who set up the baby’s profile in the first place.

TotSpot-friends

Your account (say you’re grandma, or aunty) will show activity on your grandson/daughter, nephew/niece in the “activity from my network” part of your webspace.

It also allows you to see if you are a “contributor” to your favourite baby’s page. You can contribute photo’s and video’s of your favourite baby!

Three Ways to Invite your favourite baby:


It’s easy to build your TotSpot community. Invite your friends and family to participate. You can enter e-mail addresses directly, import an address book from Outlook, or import your contacts from any of the major web services: G-Mail, Yahoo, Flickr.

Your Child’s Page! (This is the Fun Part!)TotSpot-Firsts

Your baby’s biography is the heart and soul of this site! It brings together your child’s profile with everything customizable in TotSpot like their status updates, their birth details, their photos and videos even certain milestones playfully named their “firsts.”

TotSpot-biography

 

This is also where you edit their birth details (if you want too–but remember even 22 hours can fit in a single word, LONG). If you’ve made a mistake when you are signing up you can edit things here. If you were expecting and have since given birth this is the place where you can edit the name, gender and birth info in.

You can even input your child’s eye colour and hair colour. Two of the features off of this page are the growth Chart, the Profile picture and Theme. TotSpot-theme

 

To edit your growth Chart, simply input the height and weight, and it will keep track of your baby’s development! There are also a multitude of themes, so if your child likes blue or the outdoors there are specific ones that reflect their favourite themes!

The Dashboard

The Dashboard is the “home page” of your child’s profile. It allows you to see if anyone has sent a “tickle” to your child, or uploaded photos, video’s and sent a message to be posted on his “dashboard” (much like the Facebook ‘wall.’)

TotSpot-Dashboard

Here is where it will tell you how much you’ve completed of your Child’s profile. At first there will be quite a few things that you can add (and it’s so nice, it points it out for you to just click away and it appropriates it to the right spot!) So if you want to add certain things like “favourite drink” all you have to do is fill in the blank and on the display page to others it says, “Dominic’s favourite drink is Milk.” There are also other pages that tell you about their milestones, or “firsts” and they even have a list to choose from! So for all of you mom’s who may not have time to fill in the baby book, or locate your baby book, (I never bought one to begin with) This creates and easy, hassle free way to keep records of when your child hits wonderful milestones like sleeping through the night–that’s my personal favourite! This is also where you can update your Child’s “Status.”

You’ll also be able to see how many people have viewed your child’s page as well as any activity that has happened on your child’s page. (i.e. someone comments on a picture you have posted) If any of your children’s friends update their pages, it shows up on this page as well!.

The Friend Page

The Friend page is simply, just that, where you can see your baby’s friends. (I’ve blanked out my babe’s friends for privacy reasons) It also updates you on your babe’s friends status updates as well as telling you how old they are!

TotSpot-friendsIt also allows you to see the “big” friends. So these are the grown-up accounts for friends and family such as grandmas and parents of other babies. Their profiles aren’t clickable (you’ll soon learn that I like everything to be clickable), and at first I was disappointed, but my husband reminded me that this site is for our babies, to show them off, not to chat about like a message board or grown up social network. (like Facebook)

The Bottom Line

TotSpot is a neat and private place where you can share details about your little one(s) with friends and family. It’s a great way for your family members to be included in milestone moments and to check out new videos and photos. It’s very user friendly so give it a whirl and make a profile for your child go to TotSpot. Remember it’s like any other Social Networking tool, you choose who you add to your child’s profile, so if you do not know them, please do not add them!