Comments on: What on earth is an Emo? No Wait, what’s a cutter?

By: Ryan

Ryan — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 02:44:23 +0000

I would also like to add…. My cutting was not for attention as most people believe cutters cut for attention that is not always the case. No one in my family even knows. 22 years it has been a secret. My cutting is also not a disorder and most call it. I can controle it some people may not be able to after they have been doing it for a while, but most can controle it. I guess it just bothers me that people who have cut them selves (people also burn them selves so it is not just cutting that is lumped into this catagory) get steriotyped as EMO and suisidal and attention seeking. This in most cases (im shure there are some people out there who do do this to get attention) is just not true and quite offensive. Yes it is a strange thing to do and most people dont understand it but that does not make all of us crazy or suisidal. It just means we are human and we are flawed. *I am in NO WAY ADVOCATING CUTTING! Im just saying how I am and trying to enlighten some parents so that they do not do as my parents did and alinated me and made it worse by trying to beat it out of me. I wish she had just asked me why I do it and why I feet the way I did. Mind you she would have never known had I not ever told her. So if your child confids in you please please be calm and understandign, because that trully is the biggist step and the hardest step for a teenager to take to open up and be that vonerable. It takes alot to be that honest especially when you are terrified to dissapoint the ones you love.

By: Ryan

Ryan — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 02:29:15 +0000

I have been a cutter since I was a young child, yet I did not know that is what it was called or what I was doing at the time. I have had a abusive life and I will never know how it started just rember being 8 years old and having cut my self with some glass and suddnely I felt much better my emotional pain was gone. Of corse it esculated from there. I still some times do it and Im almost 35. All I can say is people think it is a precurser to suiside but that in my case and in most others is not true at all. I did it because I was in so much pain and I didnt want to do something stupid like drink or do druggs but I needed the pain to stop. I just hope that parents of children like me would talk camly to thair child and ask them why they are doing this to them selves rather than go off the deep end. Some times teenagers just dont know how to handel their emotional baggage and they dont think any one else out there has ever felt the way they do ( beleve me all my life I had felt I was alone in life and I was far to beat down to ever speek about my pain) I guess from all of this I would just hope that kids can know that there are many others out there feeling what you feel and you are never alone u just have to face your fears and talk to some one. I know it sounds dumb comming from an adult and in my teen years I prolly would have thought what I was saying now is stupid and I dont know what Im talking about. Just know that when you grow up things have a funny way of becoming clear. A noat to parents it will get easier it usually takes till the late twentys for kids to start seeing from a difrent prospective, but it will happen and it will get easier. Juse be there for your kid and talk to them with out judging and try to understand what is causing the need to do these things.

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By: EmoGirlBloodStream

EmoGirlBloodStream — Sat, 14 Nov 2009 21:57:13 +0000

I’ve cut my self, to relive all that is wrong in the world…. I’m forced not to now…. so I feel so locked in, and held up. too much damn pain to understand, no one can understand, of holding all this in. I’ve tried learning not to, but I still have thoughts about doing it, knowing it would hurt my life, but it would make me feel better

By: Krow Day

Krow Day — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 22:27:34 +0000

A “cutter” is someone who scars or disfigures themselves out of some psychological compulsion. People who do this usually have other mental issues such as depression, bipolar disorder, or some other mood disorder.

An “emo” is a member of a subculture that now refers almost exclusively (and derisively) to people perceived to shop at Hot Topic, wear outlandish dark clothing, listen to a particular style of music and who are overly emotional.

A cutter can be any sort of person, including one who does not outwardly seem histrionic. An emo can be a cutter, but most emos are likely just young, impressionable kids who seek some way to fit in to a group.

Emo was originally a underground music genre from the 90′s but the media twisted it to have a totally different meaning because alot of alternative rock bands started calling themselves emo,and people associated the way they look,how they compose they’re music to fit with emo which by far isnt true.

btw, Emo stands for Emotional Hardcore, and the posers who cut for attention give Emo and Cutters a bad name leading to the assumption that they go hand in hand, which is bullshit.

By: Emily

Emily — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 17:48:17 +0000

ok…emo means that a teen/kid has had SOME problems with family, friends, or is just terrified of life. They’re kids who choose to deal with their emotional problems in strange ways such as “digging” which is digging their fingernails into their skin {most likely on their wrist} and “cutting” which as most know is using scissors, razer blades, and even small pencil sharpeners to cut themselves on their wrists. Most of the time they’re very upset over 1 particular thing that has happend to them. And by the way… i’m 13 and have almost ALL emo friends.

By: J

Sat, 24 Oct 2009 20:26:40 +0000

Everyone goes through rough times in life, your weak minded if you think cutting is the only way to deal with it. talk to anyone and i can promise you that they have had a rough time in at least some parts of their life.

By: jessie

jessie — Sat, 17 Oct 2009 19:02:10 +0000

people don’t cut themselves for fun, usually people who do it have had something go wrong in their life its not like a bunch of people meet up and are like ok whose ready for some fun! and pull out knives, no thats not how it works

By: Amber

Amber — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 01:15:39 +0000

Emo does not mean short for emotional, although a large group of people believe that.
Emo is short for emotive-hardcore, which is a brand of music.
The fashion of it is mostly based off skin tees, skinny jeans, converse, etcetc.

By: Silence

Silence — Tue, 30 Jun 2009 00:02:20 +0000

Cutting is self-inflicted injury. Cutters are people that cut themselves, emos are self-proclaimed members of yet another counter-culture fad. Well, there were the hippies, the punks, the raves the goths, the industrial, the rock itself, and emo is just another type of music people listen to in groups where they usually hang out together, probably to have that “rebel” feeling. Emo does often talk about emotions and all stuff emotional, and cutting due to depression too, although the two are not directly related. People cut themselves for a variety of reasons, and “going to far with emo and cutting” is not the reason, cutters come from all walks of life and often use cutting as a last resort besides suicide. Now whichever the reasons are for the behavior, there are usually personal, not fad-based. If your child suffered from a divorce (very common cause), death of significant other, serious self-esteem problems due to failures or even bad relationships, was bullied, has problems/questions about their sexuality, then those are the environmental causes for their depression and if they cut, cutting. So naturally, those would often try to self-actualize through protest, which is the cause for the current high rate of cutters being emo, which is not true vice versa. Being emo could be just part of the stage when your child is protesting against your control. And overpowering them, grounding them all the time and otherwise bullying them into being a “good kid” will make things worse and can lead the to cutting as well.